While I have no evidence that will stand up in court that he is abusive and neglectful to my child, I do have my own past personal experience, what I have witnessed, and what my child has told me. So, I know what’s going on, even under the prior “supervision” of his parents (his number 1 enablers). I could not, in good conscience, hand over my child and not feel the need to monitor happenings. Impossible.

His time with her is destructive. Period. As far as I’m concerned the only purpose of his visitations is so my child doesn’t have a gaping hole in her life. I’m reluctant to use the term “father figure”, as he’s far from it. However, I could possibly accept the term “male presence”. Whether I like it or not, he is literally part of my child, and I believe that all children deserve to know their whole family and who their father is. On the other hand, he doesn’t deserve to have the privelage of being called dad.

Ugh! I’m so confused and scared. It’s a no-win situation. Either I or my child loses out. I can’t do that to my baby. The ex will have to kill me.