Dear phighphear:

To find joy again, I say you still will need what you always need: people. But unlike the people at work and your unavailable family members I suggest to aim at people who are and will be honest with you, trustworthy and available to attend to you.

One way to figure if a person deserves your trust is to figure his or her possible motivations to be with you and pay attention to their behavior in regard to possible motivations. If these are people at work that aim at the same promotion you aim at, then this is a competitive situation and their motivation is likely: to be promoted and so, be aware and cautious.

Notice other people, dates; if a woman insists you take her to expensive places and asks you to buy her things, then her motivation is… just that. Pay attention and carefully choose.

Blind trust is not wise.

What do you think?

anita