Dear vinni:

You wrote above: “i tried to control it the more i tried more suffocating i feel”- it is better to express the emotion, to not resist them, to not try to control them, because what we resist- persists. Your emotions (emotion= energy-in-motion) need the motion from inside to outside. So do cry, do post here and cry while you type, cry when you read this… cry any time. Let the sadness be and move from your inside out, again and again.

Then be patient with yourself, do not try to rush feeling better, let it be.

And notice, when you are distressed, as you are now, the human brain naturally works over time to resolve the distress. Problem is thinking is not good when distressed. For thinking to be sensible and helpful, we need to be calm. So try not to think much by relaxing as much as you can by maybe listening to music, getting into some slow moving exercise/ stretching (like yoga) or other exercise.

Please do post again!

anita