* Dear Dina:

Salsa is a beautiful dance/ art- I am a clumsy dancer, I don’t really dance but that one time, this man, a salsa dancer, very practiced and good at it, danced with me just that once and I felt like I was dancing! I know I must not have looked like I was dancing, but I felt like I was. What an experience!

Good point, very important point: we all come from our experiences. And that Transference I did, which I realized because or your input, is common and i intend to pay attention to it in my search to get better and better at seeing what is true, what is objectively true. For example, this issue of flirtation: in your case, your boyfriend is okay with it and I see why he would be/ I understand it is your style of communication and not an indication of a character flaw. In your case, and your boyfriend, fortunately, sees it as it is, as it is objectively: style, not a character flaw, not disloyalty.

In the case of the original poster, this is not the case. At the least he is not okay with her behavior with and about other guys. So there is a major difference. Then, in her case, it may not be a style but a manipulative strategy.

I hope Adam comes back, Dina, and i will be glad if he comes back. Often enough people do not. We will see.

I saw your short comment to me about me being a lovely person. Thank you, and so are you!!!

anita