Dear Aislynn:

There are valid, true messages behind our emotions and it is about finding what those are. When you wished your ex boyfriend to have a bad year, the valid message, I believe, is: he hurt him and I want him hurt back. The not-valid, incorrect message is: I am a bad, twisted person. And so, if you practice deciphering correct, true, real messages behind your emotions and dismissing the incorrect, false, unreal messages, you will increase your “emotional intelligence” a lot! This will help you in your personal life and in your writing career!

It is okay to practice all-or-nothing thinking, who doesn’t? You just pay attention and correct and move on, always patient and kind to yourself.

anita