Dear Amy:

I am confused at this point. i don’t know if you still want to change the man or you are resigned that he is the way he is. I don’t know if you want him to pursue having a relationship with your child, or not. I don’t know what you want from him at this point. I am confused. I think the legal proceedings are confusing you, the manipulation involved, you having to seem like you are motivated to pursue the man to be interested in your child… I wish you could separate the two: what you want and then, when the first part is clear, then what is the best way to handle the court business.

I wish you can think about it when you are calm….

anita