* I was thinking, vinni, about what I wrote to you (and to anyone reading) last, above, the self interest point: it is most important in a relationship that both parties win, get something valuable AND that both parties to the relationship know what that valuable thing is. When you know what it is that you get out of a relationship and communicate it clearly to your partner, and your partner does the same then there are no hidden motives, all is clearly, honestly known.

When I communicate here with you, it is to learn, to become wiser. Learning and wisdom are important for me. The more I learn about you, a fellow human being, the more I know about me… also a human being, and the more I know about other humans. This is my motive, my Win and there is no other motive, no other win… oh, and the connection as well, of course. And there is no other motive. Always clear, honest.

anita