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” Hold Me Tight” author is Dr. Sue Johnson. Very insightful and talks of how to together to have more open communication and open doors for a lifetime of love.
My intuition is that there is someone or something else in her life. I have felt like that before, it was true and the disappearance of taking a drive alone, after the closeness of that date makes me wonder. If she suddenly needs to leave out of town for traveling for her work, red flags would be going up in my head. Do you get a paper bill for cellphone usage? If so, check the phone numbers at the time she left that evening. and you may see something or not during that alone time of driving.
I wouldn’t discount the physical menopause or depression scenario. But, the changes with you, her son and her family members, appears to be secretive and not wanting to be near them, so nothing emotional spills out of her mouth. I have been there and thought I was very clever in concealment, but it eventually gets discovered.
As men always used to say, even if caught in the act…..Deny, deny, deny”. I sincerely hope this isn’t the case, but with a small child involved, wouldn’t want you to be blindsided or the child suffer the distantness that may be occurring, because she might be obsessed with the “What If” of a new situation, and depressions over loss of what might have been in her carefree days before. I am an investigator by trade, so my cynicism sometimes makes my life easier when searching for the truth. Keeping your head in the sand just makes it easier for her, if something is up. If nothing is up, then counseling and your efforts to make things right, like date night, etc are good to repair the relationship that seems to be leaving her melancholy.