I contacted him after ten over years, I looked at him as a friend, but I was taken aback when he openly wanted sex. We are staying in different country, I met up with him and we didn’t have sex. Only after when I fly to his working country that we are intimate but not to the extent of having sexual intercourse, I am not ready for it. We have been texting each other for more than a year, I knew about his sexual secrets and all the while, I have been giving him moral support for making a baby steps of positive change.

I was utterly upset when I realized he wanted to see me not simply to see me but for sex. I have been spelling out very clearly to him that I want a man who has a loving heart, who knows how to respect, show care and attention to others. He isn’t.. Love is special, I am not into casual sex, I reprimanded him many times for not showing respect to women. I couldn’t stand being threatened, that’s not the way to treat a lady at all! He hinted to me that other lady couldn’t wait to lay her hands on him, but he told me that he only wanted me. I told him off, I am not a sexual object to him.

I pray that he will change for better, to be a better man.