Dear Amelia:

That Square One state of mind, the sadness, loneliness, desperation… these are sort of an Emotional Memory from childhood. When a relationship ends, your emotional memory gets triggered and you go back to that state of mind, very unpleasant. The thing is, that Square One state is not a result of the latest breakup, separation, but it is a result of an ongoing state of mind you were in as a child. It was very painful then and that pain is what comes up again and again.

When you expected to see the latest boyfriend later in the day, that made it possible for you to feel good… When you are involved with a guy that reciprocates loving attention, you feel really good.

Of course, it is natural to feel happy when loved and sad when you lose that love. It is the INTENSITY of the feelings that is born in those childhood experience.

If you think it may be helpful, to the extent that it will, for as long as you feel comfortable doing so, you can get in touch now with a bit,just a bit of how it felt then, as a child and that way, you can place that intensity of sadness and despair in the past, where it originated.

Only, if you are comfortable, when you are comfortable doing so and only to the extent that you think it may be helpful to you, to do this here.

anita