Dear Wisdom:

You wrote that you “put in so much energy to things and then nothing ever seems to happen” When you write that you put in so much energy, you mean by thinking hard? Because just thinking, no matter how long you think and how hard you think and no matter how intensely you feel when you think so hard… things won’t happen unless you do something.

For example, you waved to the girl today and then you thought hard about speaking to her but you didn’t speak to her. So as far as things happening with that girl, the wave counts (this is why it counted as your assignment for today), but the thinking afterwards about speaking to her does not count because it cannot make things happen. Something has to be done. This is the nature of reality.

Waiting then following an act on your part makes sense. Passively waiting with no action is ineffective and will lead to nothing happening.

Your second post about perfection, oh, yes, that will keep you from action because if it has to be perfect… then it paralyzes you with fear of acting imperfectly. Nobody is perfect and hardly anything at all can be performed perfectly. Sometimes when you behave imperfectly with someone, that can give them the courage to act imperfectly themselves. It works for me: when someone is imperfect with me, then I think: good I can be imperfect with him/ her!

anita