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That’s an interesting question because I actually feel kind of anxious when I imagine that. I don’t think he’s the type of person who could take care of me over the long-term (reason #572 we shouldn’t be together…haha). I don’t know if I’ve mentioned this before, but one of the biggest lessons I took away from this relationship is that he’s bad at relationships and good at friendships. As a friend, he’s the pick of the litter. But he’s not good at romance and has been in very few serious relationships throughout the course of his life. I don’t believe he would make a good long-term partner. He’s excellent in the beginning, but withdraws when it comes time to make a real commitment to someone. If we got married, I have no doubt that it would be very tumultuous. And yet, I still love him. I love him for everything that makes him a good friend and a good person in general. I can see myself vowing to love him forever, live with him, take care of him, travel with him, encourage him, build a life with him…But he would have to become a completely different type of person for that to work. He would have to be willing to do the same things for me, and he’s just not. But he still cares about me, and I find myself clinging to that. He wants the best for me, is always there when I need him, and probably still has feelings for me, though he won’t allow himself to experience the extent of them. That has been very painful for me.