Hi Anyone,

The question that you may need to ask yourself is, can you love this person un-conditionally, minus a few of his imperfections? If you feel he needs to seek a therapist/counselor in regards to your relationship with him, are you able to be a part of his treatment/growth during this process. If the answer is truly NO and if you feel you are constantly going to find things wrong about him, that you really don’t like. Then the best and healthy thing to do is, walk away. If the answer is YES, than you have a winner and that means you do love him un-conditionally, knowing he can’t be the picture perfect image in your mind but accepting he may be willing to take the journey of you two evolving together. Regardless of your answer to these questions hun, the answer simply comes down to – Is he worth the spiritual journey and do I love him for not being completely perfect?

You don’t have to share that answer with me, as that is something you can keep to yourself if you wish.

I feel everyone does have a certain kind of bossiness to them about certain kinds of things. It depends what he is bossy about. If he is bossy at the workplace and not entirely bossy at home in his personal life and allows his wife to take over that roll in their private life. Then that balances pretty equally I feel. For me personally, at my professional job I am well liked, known as a hard/fast worker and I am kind, respectful and honest with people BUT on the other hand there are some people at my workplace who let their emotions get out of control because they are still young and we all take that into account. For me, in all aspects of my life – I feed off energy as I am highly sensitive to people’s energy. For example, if people are mean and I sense that they are in fact mean, judgmental or putting on a fake act, I’ll dis-engage and keep it to a quick “Hello and goodbye” (at times no words come out of my lips) if the opportunity presents itself. If I sense an energy of compassion and sincerity, then I will feed off that positive energy. So in the simplest terms of what I’m getting at is, I give back what you give in your energy towards me.

When I’m at work, I am highly motivated and focused on what needs to be accomplished. All of the other drama that presents itself, I don’t pay any attention to and don’t make eye contact. I’m just too focused on doing my job. Now, in my personal life for me, it’s very easy. I have to say that I do enjoy my lover being in control of things at home, while in the mean time I cook, clean and do laundry. I very much enjoy doing laundry lol. 🙂

So I gave you some great examples of how some people may be bossy about some things but not bossy about other things. As long as it balances out right and both lovers have an equal understanding of each other and how they operate. There shouldn’t be a problem. Most times problems present themselves drastically and dramatically when the person is a complete stranger to you and haven’t known them for a couple of years, to truly know their in’s and outs. So my advice to you is, since you’ve only knows him just a couple of months, you’ll have to go about getting to know about him and his in’s and outs, in a way you feel most comfortable.

I hope all this information helps. Let me know your thoughts and your opinion. It’s all about a line of in person communication with him. Remember – You are AWESOME and you got this!! 🙂

M.