Dear Anyone:

It doesn’t sound right to me and I agree with you: you should get to know a person before committing to a life with them. Thing is, what you already know about him doesn’t sound good to me… and to you, this is why you posted here.

You wrote: “A go getter. Likes me and wants me. Doesn’t give me time and space to think and answer.” Well, you are not something to GET. And you need the time and space to think and answer. It is not up to him to give you that time and space; it is yours to take, your right and it is reasonable that you do take your time and space.

“Since it has happened suddenly, I’m unable to accept that someone whom I knew as a colleague feels so much for me. Also, I want to take the next relation at a slow pace and understand the person well before committing.”- very reasonable on your part.

“The problem is – he has a bossy attitude…He brags about a lot of things about himself.”- if he was a child, that would be something for a parent to work with, to teach him that although he is valuable and special, other people are valuable and special too… and interactions with other people should be based on an I-Win:You-Win attitude and not on I-Win:You-Lose attitude which is what his bossiness may be about.

Please post again:

anita