Hi Carolina,

I am sorry to hear you are feeling so hurt. It sounds like you’re feeling a little bit confused as you thought you knew him but his recent actions are very unexpected? I don’t want to ‘disagree’ with Anita but I don’t think what needs examining here is a one off occasion of your behaviour, we all do things in relationships, good and bad but I think the point you were making is that he has just thrown in the towel without trying to make it work or understand.

I think by the end of your post you had started to make sense of it yourself – “Relationships are not always perfect, ours was great and at the first “rough” moment he throws the towel like that, without trying his best, without talking to me first. I’m hurting so bad :(”

You’re right they aren’t always perfect, no-one is perfect and we should all be able to be ourselves and show our whole selves and be loved. I know you’re hurting a lot right now but I think if he isn’t willing or wanting to give it a go or that he doesn’t want to be with someone who isn’t ‘happy’ then do you really want to be with someone like that at all? We will all have down days, weeks and maybe more, it doesn’t make us unworthy of love. Yes we need to look at what actions and behaviour we bring to relationships but those who truly care about us as people who will stick around and encourage us, not look for or demand the ‘happy’ you but perhaps the REAL you and all that that entails.

You will get through this hurt and you’ll have an even better idea of what you want and need from a partner. Don’t ever settle for someone who doesn’t see your worth.

Lots of love

xXx