Dear Wisdom:

The thing is, Wisdom, that what you want, what you desire is to love and be loved by a young man, be in a loving relationship. It doesn’t have to be this particular man. If you say hi to him again and again and do a million backflips, like you wrote, to get his attention and he is not paying attention to you… then he is not the one!

See, one of the beliefs you have, one of the beliefs that is not working for you, is that it has to be that particular man. It doesn’t have to be him. And besides, this particular man that you are interested in, you never met in person. You never expressed to him that you are interested in a relationship with him. So all those backflips you mentioned, well… those were the backflips you made in between your ears- this is where they happened.

To make things happen in real life, the action has to be outside that space in between the ears.

Your desire is a good desire, natural and understandable: to love and be loved. How to go about it is the question, isn’t it/

anita