Dear Wisdom:

You wrote: “i still believe he’s mine. i always have.” But there were others you had crushes on before him, so it is not true that “(you) always have” believed he is the one. There were others, only you believed he is the one more intensely and for longer, isn’t it correct?

The main point though is that you believe you are unlovable, unworthy of love, of being loved. This is why you feel like a fool, sort of thinking something like this: “I should know I am unlovable! What a fool I was to think it is possible for this man to love me! There is no reason to love me! I know better, why did I even hope? Oh, how stupid I am…”

Isn’t this something like what you are thinking?

And this is the key to everything: beliefs. Remember I wrote on this thread that your beliefs have not been working for you so far? This is the main belief that you have about you that has not been working for you but against you!

You believe that you are unlovable, not worthy of being loved by any young man that you desire or may desire. This is what you believe. Unfortunately for you, your belief is not what is true. Can you imagine it being a possibility, that something you believe in so strongly is not true?

It is possible for you and for me and for everyone, to believe things are true when in reality, they are not true.

Believe in god, if you’d like; believe in destiny if it suits you… in the Universe and in butterflies. But believe that you are lovable. For as long as you believe you are unlovable, you are your own worst enemy and you are doomed.

Are you open just a …little bit to consider that you are wrong in your belief of you being unworthy of being loved? Are you open to consider that there are things to love about you?

I believe that you are worthy of being loved by a young man that you desire. I have no doubt about it.

So… one of us is wrong. Who might that be???

anita