Hi Amalia,

Personally, i think Brian thought you were both on the same page. After texting so much, he clearly thought he knew who you were. Much like Anita said above, he had developed a picture of who you are separate from who you truly are. As for the virgin part, i’m not quite sure of what to make about that. I just assume if a person has been in a relationship for sometime that they would of been intimate. So, maybe he felt that you were ‘pure’ in his mind. For some reason being ‘pure’ is something that some guys like. I don’t get it, and i’m a guy.

I don’t think you have to apologize for speaking your mind, if anything that should be congratulated. Saying it was too fast, is your opinion and if anything maybe he could of turned it down a notch. But he might be hurt because he thought you would be as invested as he was. He made a mistake, that’s all. He popped the ‘love’ question way early, neither of you would truly have any understanding of each other. I was under the belief that you get to know someone through shared experiences, not simply talking to each other.

Are you really in love with him? The way i have read your post, it sounds like you only started loving him after some consideration after only meeting each other once. You may of talked yourself into feeling things for him, you don’t actually feel.

If he is not replying, well, he clearly must be feeling hurt. But don’t keep apologizing, you didn’t do anything wrong. Actually neither of you did, i think ultimately, both of you made assumptions before you meet, created boundaries and limits to what you would talk about, feel and understand about each other. They were not mutual, you both had different limits. I would give it some time before you try to talk to him again. Let him work through this, and this will give you some time for clarity on your side.

Sincerely,
Matty