Dear Missjennacole:

It sounds to me that you are not interested in an intimate relationship with a man (or a woman) because you were hurt deeply before, hurt in a close relationship, maybe going as far back as the relationship you had with your mother or father… or both. so you protect yourself by looking for flaws, zeroing on them and getting irritated with the men.

You are getting anxious and depressed about this because you do need an intimate relationship (this is why you flirt).

If you agree, insight into your hurt will help. Would you like to share about it?

anita