Hi Faye,

I wanted to share this advice from an article I came across. Maybe you’ll find the advice useful. I’ve been following it myself.

“Keep a positive, but sober view of the person in front of you. Look, I don’t want to be the cynic who comes along and tells you to be withdrawn and skeptical every time you meet a guy who seems great.
But here’s the thing: you can still be positive, vulnerable and open, whilst also reserving judgment on someone until you know more about them. Think of this as a kind of ‘mature vulnerability.’ You are giving and open, but you’re also self-respecting enough to only invest in a new guy to the extent that he also shows investment back in you.
This also comes down to knowing what you want, and being willing to walk away if he has habits that make him wrong for you in the long-run e.g. he’s way too career-obsessed, he doesn’t care about having a family, he has no standards for his health and well-being.
Each time you take a step forward, you see if he comes alongside with you. Call this the ‘Invest, then test.’ You invest a bit, then see what you get back. Then invest again, then test again. And repeat so that you know you’re entering a relationship that is a two-way street, with both sides giving as much as one another.”