Dear Wisdom:

You are not required to give up on love. For as long as it makes you feel safe or that there is something to live for, then hold on to that, to that guy online being your soul mate. Hold on to it for as long as you need to.

I think you are changing, on the verge of a change, considering different possibilities, afraid to let go of the old… I understand it very well.

So, don’t let go of the old, the beliefs you held on to for so long. Plenty of people believe all sorts of things that make them feel safer, less scared. There is nothing at all unusual about it.

But the doubt is in you already. You expressed it many times. Maybe you can make peace with… not knowing, with being in between. This is okay. You are not alone, being in between. I am in between myself, in between what I know and what I am yet to know.

No need to solve all problems and “fix it” today, or tomorrow.

I understand your frustration with having “no hobbies or drive to do anything” if you can’t do it great. I was like that too. You are young, Wisdom. Learning takes time. Be patient with yourself, very, very patient.

anita