Dear Kathleen:

I wish you were given your own name when you were born and new belongings. I feel sad that this was done to you. Can you imagine giving yourself a new name? A symbolic act, it would be. Part of the “spiritual awakening” you mentioned… but that would be nothing but symbolic. The damage was already done.

It is very common for people to try and prove their worth by doing and accomplishing. But doing and accomplishing is part of being human beings, not something apart from being a human being.

If when you are not doing, anytime you are not doing, you are feeling badly, anxious to get busy so to feel okay, then the balance is off and it is a problem. Some balance between working and resting, doing for yourself and for others needs to be.

How was your adult life so far as far as the balance between working vs resting; doing for yourself vs. doing for others?

anita