Dear Sapnap;

I think you are in danger, Sapnap3 and i am alarmed for you. You are thinking about making a choice that is against your own well being. You are about to make a change (move back to Chicago) so to be a “good daughter” instead of Being and Becoming YOU.

You wrote that you are “co dependent”- we can’t help as humans but be dependent on others to some extent. We are born social animals and we need others. We develop and become more and more of who we are through interactions with others.

Your responsibility, i believe, is to be the best and most person you can be and not to be a “good daughter”- don’t go backward trying to please a parent. Move forward.

This confusion, sadness you feel… there will be more and more of it if you stay where you are right now.

anita