Dear Jonny:

Five months since the breakup… has it been 5 months since she cut all contact with you? If not when did she cut all contact with you and how long after the breakup?

I don’t think there is a reason to examine the relationship that was at this point because you are very distressed. Of course there are the usual coping skills and strategies: from aerobic exercise to slow moving practices like relaxing yoga and Tai Chi, there is the long walks in nature (if you have nature where you are, parks will do), to guided meditation, the slowly advancing practice of mindfulness… and there are self help support groups, psychotherapy…

anita