Dear Wendy:

If he is honest and he truly believes in his heart and mind that ongoing negative criticism is an act of love, are you willing to believe it too?

He may be honest, maybe, about how he feels, to the best of his understanding, but are you willing to live under the ongoing negative criticism? Under a reduced amount of it? And are you willing to bring children into the world, children he would deeply care about by negatively criticizing them?

Will those future innocent children feel his deep caring when he negatively criticize them again and again? Or will they feel that they can’t do anything right and develop a low, low self confidence?

And is he avoiding you now, giving you the “silent treatment” as a threat: Take my negative criticism or I will never talk to you again?

Is that a threat you are willing to live with: my-way-or-the-highway?

anita