Her parents, my mother and father in law, are elderly and delicate and very sensitive.
If I were to “go off” on her verbally, and let her know how she is just a cruel, spiteful person, she would immediately go to her parents, who are extremely sweet, and pester them about it. They don’t deserve that. I won’t put them through it.
I’ve come to the conclusion that she is a narcissist, I’ve cut down the communication as much as I possibly can, but it’s like she enjoys hurting me and finds ways to sneak into my life, via fake profiles online, or pretending to have a miscarriage, or pretending to apologize.
This vicious circle has gone on for 12 years. My husband and I have been married for 10.
This is an example of how rude she can be: last year on our wedding anniversary, she wrote, in a public forum, to my husband “I’ve never agreed with your marriage but I guess I should say happy anniversary anyway.”
She is mean. It is pointless. She is interfering with my healing process. I wish I knew a way to politely tell her to suck an egg and forget she ever met me.