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  • March 15, 2016 at 2:28 pm #99083
    Stasia
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    I feel that as I had only one child, who has now passed away, it is my mother job to preserve his memory.
    It is my job to ensure that he is thought of with love, compassion, and respect.
    This sister in law of mine has done exactly the opposite.
    As I said previously, this is not about me, this is about respecting the memory of my beloved child.
    She crossed a line.
    A very dangerous, invasive, primal line.

    March 15, 2016 at 2:26 pm #99081
    Stasia
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    Hello Anita and SumS,
    Thank you for the logical advice.
    I’ve already emailed her, over three years ago and the abusive behavior continues.
    I don’t really care what she says or does in my regard, but exploiting the passing of my child was crossing a line. I deleted my entire acct. on that particular site so I will not see if she does it again.
    She has no photos of him.
    She does not know his middle name.
    She does not know where he was attending college.
    She is a narcissist, in every definition that I can find, everything must be about her and serve her in some way. She has blatantly been cruel to her own child for very basic things such as interrupting or singing a song, she does not allow attention onto her own little one. She is that selfish.
    I don’t know what to do other than avoid her.
    I fear that at the next obligatory family gathering I will not be able to hold my tongue.
    I’ve planned my “exit strategy” in advance by simply planning to say I need to take a walk.
    And then leave.
    I don’t know what else to do other than rip her to shreds with my words and I don’t want to do that. I would hurt her. I would expose her for a liar, a trouble starter, and a pathetic person.
    I don’t want to do that.

    March 14, 2016 at 10:42 am #98975
    Stasia
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    Her parents, my mother and father in law, are elderly and delicate and very sensitive.
    If I were to “go off” on her verbally, and let her know how she is just a cruel, spiteful person, she would immediately go to her parents, who are extremely sweet, and pester them about it. They don’t deserve that. I won’t put them through it.
    I’ve come to the conclusion that she is a narcissist, I’ve cut down the communication as much as I possibly can, but it’s like she enjoys hurting me and finds ways to sneak into my life, via fake profiles online, or pretending to have a miscarriage, or pretending to apologize.
    This vicious circle has gone on for 12 years. My husband and I have been married for 10.
    This is an example of how rude she can be: last year on our wedding anniversary, she wrote, in a public forum, to my husband “I’ve never agreed with your marriage but I guess I should say happy anniversary anyway.”
    She is mean. It is pointless. She is interfering with my healing process. I wish I knew a way to politely tell her to suck an egg and forget she ever met me.

    March 14, 2016 at 10:34 am #98969
    Stasia
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    You are very young.
    If this is your first offense, I would think that your punishment would be light.
    You are also in the age of technology; snapchat, Skype, IM’s, texts, etc. I would advise utilizing snail mail as often as you can, too. It’s a nice surprise!
    You mentioned you can see spending the rest of your life with her, at age 17, “the rest of your life” is the big picture, not 1/2 a year.

    March 14, 2016 at 9:53 am #98962
    Stasia
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    footnote: this lady not only tries to argue with me, but with her other siblings, her neighbors, former coworkers, and her childs teachers. This is not totally me, but whatever part of it that IS me, I’d like to repair and move on and do so without this person in my life.
    I do not want to offend her family.
    I do not want to deal with her again, in any form.
    It’s very delicate.

    November 19, 2014 at 1:31 pm #68132
    Stasia
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    Most likely they are jealous of you, or your husband, or both.
    I have the exact same issue, and I am strongly out-numbered. I am fortunate enough to live far away from them, and it is still hurtful. Keep in mind that maintaining a peaceful demeanor while they show their “true colors”, it will be obvious to all involved, especially your child, what the correct and righteous behavior is.
    Best of luck to you, Dear.
    Love and Light to Your Family.

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