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  • March 13, 2016 at 9:38 pm #98915
    David Russ
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    So I’m 17 and rather successful for my age.I’m also graduating this year. I’m a highly skilled coder, love buddhism, but also (like everyone) has some cons. A few months ago I got in trouble for trafficking pot, and I just had my court date friday. As a minor they put me on verbal house arrest until my next court date, at which I’ll likely get probation. Problem with Ohio is that drug charges have a mandatory license suspension for 6 months.

    Before all of this happened I was pretty lonely. I hadn’t had any success in relationships for about a year, and my previous one ended horrendously for reasons out of my control. I was pretty messed up and I used pot as my escape for awhile. I got caught and afterwords I began meditating more so I could get clean for court. So my first month of my trouble was rather enlightening, though I progressed a tad too much and backslid a little, and started smoking again. Once I got my indictment I stopped again, though this time I didn’t meditate like before.

    One day I wrote down on a piece of paper everything I wanted in a girl, read it out loud, and threw it in the fire hoping it’d reach some high heaven of sorts.Eventually I met a girl. She lives 45 minutes away and is everything I had ever wanted. She’s unconditionally loving, sweet, gentle, funny, adorable, geeky, and short. The only thing she wasn’t was a stoner, which is likely because that wasn’t something i truly needed. She brings out the very best in me and despite only knowing her for 2 months I want to spend forever with her.

    Now that I am on house arrest it has been a struggle to see her. She doesn’t have a license and I can’t leave my house. In about a month I will have my court date and although I won’t likely get house arrest and instead will have probation, I won’t have my license for most of the year. This is going to make it very difficult to see her. I want this relationship to last and I was hoping that maybe some other people who have experienced similar roadblocks could give me some advice on how to keep this relationship strong. Any help is appreciated 🙂

    March 14, 2016 at 12:13 am #98918
    Anonymous
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    David,

    I’m sure all the mishaps of drug trafficking has taught you a valuable lesson. Marijuana is about to be legal everywhere soon anyway, So I’m sure you’re not going to be in too much trouble. You’re young so you’ve a big life ahead of you.

    Really happy you have a wonderful girlfriend that you love, everything you said about her was beautiful and I hope you have already told her all those wonderful things. 🙂

    I’m sure she can take the bus to your house or ride her bicycle and or maybe has her own vehicle to come and see you. As long as you two are keep a line of communication open about scheduling to see each other in person, then that is great. With all the technology out there like, Skype, text messaging. FaceTime ect. You two have options.

    It’s so beautiful to see that you have the girl that you always wanted. 🙂

    Blessings-

    M.

    March 14, 2016 at 8:55 am #98952
    Anonymous
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    David Russ:

    I suppose it will have to be, in effect, a long distance relationship for a while. These 45 minute distance is way more than that because neither one of you can drive. Maybe she will get a license to drive and come see you?

    Being honest with each other, affectionate, communicating effectively over the phone and online with her is much more than many couples do in person!

    anita

    March 14, 2016 at 10:34 am #98969
    Stasia
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    You are very young.
    If this is your first offense, I would think that your punishment would be light.
    You are also in the age of technology; snapchat, Skype, IM’s, texts, etc. I would advise utilizing snail mail as often as you can, too. It’s a nice surprise!
    You mentioned you can see spending the rest of your life with her, at age 17, “the rest of your life” is the big picture, not 1/2 a year.

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