Dear Ladybug:

You wrote that you feel calmer since the switch from fake to authentic. But you also feel terrified. It is the right thing for your mental health to have made the switch and to stick with it. It is scary because change is scary, even good change. If you persist in the new way of being, in spite of the fear and discomfort, you will heal so much and your life will be amazingly better than what it was.

It is this fear and discomfort that makes most people turn around and abandon their own healing.

You wrote: “I feel like everyone will leave me now. I’m scared that I’m not good enough.”

This is what I believe happened: when you were a baby and a young child, you were authentic as young children are. Then, because your natural authenticity was rejected, you took on that fake behavior, so to avoid more rejection.

Now being back to authenticity, the same fear is back.

An after thought: that fear was never really gone when you were fake…Was it?

anita