Dear Anita,

I had the worst 6 weeks of my life. I am definitely not thinking to get back into relationship again.

Although, if I ever did, I will certainly not ignore the facts and red flags. I will not let my feeling delude my gut feelings and my rational thinking.

I let this happen to me by not taking the self responsibility and walking away. There are things I should have said and I didn’t. I was led to believe something that wasn’t true and I took the bait. For weeks I couldn’t understand how can I person change overnight and fully switch off towards you after living 2.5 years under same roof and sharing same bed. She didn’t shed a single tear or displayed any sign off grief of losing something significant, whereas I cried my life out there.

After talking to my counselor, I realized she manipulated me for a long time. There is term they use for that as well. Intermittent reinforcement. I cared for her and she walked all over me.