Dear Ravi:

To the explosive anger, there is no one solution, or one tool to use. If you were in therapy for it, you would learn a number of tools, one works when the anger is not that intense, another works when your anger is more intense. Plus the ongoing taking charge of your life is going be extremely helpful for your anger problem.

Regarding me telling you that you are intelligent, please pay attention, Ravi, because I don’t want you to miss my point. Yes, I think you are intelligent from our correspondence, definitely, no less intelligent than I am, as far as I can tell. But I am not here trying to flatter you. For example, I don’t know if you are intelligent enough to pass any particular test in any school out there because I don’t know the test requirements. What I do know, and please pay attention:

What I do know is that you are more intelligent than your parents and your grandmother, that you have way more critical thinking skills than they do. I know that from the quotes and descriptions you gave me on page after page of this thread.
Included the latest example in your last post. I tell you this for practical reasons. Please absorb this reality all the way: you are way more intelligent than the three of them, way more capable of making good choices than the three of them put together.

So no longer let them make decisions for you. They have a very bad record of success in making decisions for you. Make your own decisions. You can’t do much worse than them. You can only make better choices if you take charge.

anita

P.S. Also, they are not honest. They manipulate you, at least your grandmother and mother, manipulating you: “I hate this wretched life, I hope… so that in my next life I can get a doctor for a son”- just like your kind of talk. Not coincidental, Ravi.