Dear brav3:

Accepting emotions means not trying to get rid of them, but letting them be. Lots of people rush to forgive as in trying to get rid of the anger, not wanting to feel the anger. But this is not a good idea. Let your anger be for as long as it will be.

One way I was taught to endure strong emotions is to pay attention (a form of meditation) how they feel in the body, as in tight chest, a choked feeling in the throat, a heat flash, a cold feeling and focus my attention on the sensation. As you pay attention, you will notice that the sensation does not stay the same: the tightness weakens, the heat evaporates, etc.

There are many ways to let the emotions be and endure them. Once you build the confidence that you can endure these emotions, that they do not kill you or even make you sick, they just don’t feel good, it becomes… not so bad. Not as bad as it seemed before.

Please post again and again…

anita