Dear Brav3:

It is evident in your last post that you need to make a change in your thinking and believing about you and the world. I know this because you wrote that you are now “incompatible with this world”- your values, that is your beliefs about what should be is not compatible with what is.

If being fair, behaving with integrity, being committed to another and being the decent man that you have been is bringing you suffering, why be all those things?

I would ask this question with an addition, an editing:

If being fair, behaving with integrity, being committed to another and being the decent man that you have been with a woman who is unfair, lacking integrity and not committed is bringing you suffering, why be all those things with a woman like that?

See the difference?

So instead of turning your back on being a fair man, a man of integrity and so forth, make a different change: be those things with a woman who values the same as you do, a woman worthy of you.

Simply learn who the woman is before you get deep into a relationship with her. Spend the time needed to get to know her first. That will be time well spent. What do you think?

anita