Dear Ann87:

You wrote above: “What if I can not tell healthy from unhealthy and what if i am making relationships unhealthy??”

Here is my answer: it is unhealthy for you to be in a relationship with a person who disrespects and mistreats you. It doesn’t matter if the person is your father, your mother, your sister or a boyfriend. It doesn’t matter if the one who disrespects and mistreats you means well or says he or she loves you. And it doesn’t matter what you do in the relationship or even who you are- if the person doesn’t like you- he or she still does not have the right to disrespect and mistreat you.

Though shall not be disrespected and mistreated by another. How is this as a rule?

Regarding dropping out of university, not knowing what to study… one thing at a time. How about the rule above to start with?

If you are confused and don’t know IF you are disrespected and mistreated, can you make a list of behaviors you encountered from your father, your sister, your ex boyfriend, your “partner”? Make the list of examples specific and we can go over them one by one and figure out if these are disrespectful of you…

anita