Hi Nick,

Right now I see my partner once a week, maybe twice tops. During the week we text each other, maybe Skype together mid-week, but that’s it. When we first started dating (3 years ago) it was WAY more intense though, we saw each other 3-4 times a week and Skyped every single night.

I do miss my partner when we’re apart more than anything else, but I also recognize that our time apart allows me to gather my thoughts and center myself without obligations to anyone else’s needs or desires. Also, I’m a very anti-conflict person (and so is he) but the longer we know each other the easier it becomes for us to clearly voice our concerns and disagreements and annoyances without taking it personally or turning it into a Big Deal.