Sapnegi,

In addition to John’s words, perhaps you would benefit from reading about co-dependence. Some of us in relationships look to our partner for our self-esteem, which becomes unstable over time. It can push us to become controlling or clingy, which is not ideal for long term commitments. Pia Mellody has a great book “Facing Codependence” that is very practical, and I can attest to its ability to explain and provide relief and guidance.

With warmth,
Matt