Dearest Laia …My heart goes out to you, you must be feeling battered and bruised. But I think you *can* be proud of how you handled it. It may not have been elegant, but you put yourself and your peace of mind first and that is a good thing. You tried honest communication, it didn’t work. Now it’s time to look after yourself and be kind to yourself. I thought John’s reply was full of wisdom … find the stability and security inside yourself and go from there. When you find yourself secretly wishing for the love and approval he couldn’t give you, focus on the feelings of relief you described … I think they are telling you that this relationship wasn’t healthy and that you did the right thing. The right thing is often painful, so above all … be kind to yourself. Thinking of you x Vanessa