Lana,

You don’t seem confused to me. You can’t predict the future, which is different. :p He is the one who is sorting things out, and is giving tons of mixed signals. Instead of imagining “what do those signals mean for our future”, consider “what do mixed signals say about the man giving them.” He sounds like he is confused, and not sure what he wants, which will take time. From how you describe him, it doesn’t seem like he’s leading you on, rather is healing from a broken intimacy.

Just make sure to take opportunities to love if they come up, he might only ever be a friend… and you deserve someone who goes gaga for you! 🙂 Either way, you sound like a great friend and that is a precious gift you give to him. Well done!

With warmth,
Matt