Lana,

Divorce can be difficult and take some time to heal. I dated a few women who were ready and open far more than I was, even though I thought I was whole. Consider that he might need a friend, but dating and sex might be something that still conflicts in him. Give it time.

If you’re in pain because he refuses to talk about it, then the pain could be hurting the friendship. When you look at him, do you first see a friend that is confused about romantic love or do you see a man who is unwilling to go the next step with you? It makes a difference! He needs the friend, perhaps give him time and space. Love draws all things together, so if it can be, it will be. Don’t force it. That way, you’re growing your heart.

With warmth,
Matt