Hello Megan,

I think Danubelle offers up some wise words on your situation. I would like to give you the gift of another angle. You state you only have two choices; take a look at that again. As life moves forward and situations organically change, choices constantly shift and change, offering up new choices and different perspectives. Perhaps being present each day to what choices are changing for you could be a useful exercise.

Once we make a choice, there are always other follow-up choices to make as a consequence. This never ends and is part of life’s journey. What makes our choices viable? Well, confidence in ourselves can help. Also the understanding that no choice is permanent and can be changed, modified and adapted. Choices are never right or wrong, they are simply choices (thinking this way detaches blame and shame from our choices). And remember, not making a choice is a still a choice! By not making a choice you would be simply choosing not to choose.

Like Danubelle says, follow your heart. What is it telling you? If you take some time to sit peacefully each day and just listen to what your heart is saying, this may help. Your heart is your compass and your mind the pilot. Unfortunately, our mind can be like the Captain and First Officer arguing in the cockpit! This makes decision making confusing.

You are your own Captain. You fly your own plane. The First Officer is your inner critic warning you of the fear associated with your choices. Imagining turning off your First Officer’s microphone. This will give you the space, peace, and clarity to make a decision you can be more confident in.

At the end of the day, nobody can tell you what to do, because they are not you. You know your own mind and life best. Trust yourself because you are wonderful, talented and have more than enough to move forward.

Best of luck!

Matt.

• This reply was modified 11 years, 5 months ago by Matt Turner.
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