Amy,

As you said, you are young. Being young does not make your love any less potent, but it can make it more confusing. A few things came to heart as I read your words.

First is that as people grow, sometimes they grow in different directions. Many young love experiences are like this, where two people who find they can connect attempt to remain together even as the winds of change push them apart. This can produce a lot of tension. For some, love becomes everything good about the world and they don’t seek their own path, rather they seek the “us” path. For others, exploring and growing is a very personal journey, and they feel the need to walk it alone.

It sounds like he is trying to find himself and grow. My best advice is for you to do the same. If you two are going to end up together is a mystery that only time will tell, so all that can be done is to let go and start exploring. Perhaps you could embrace the activities that you enjoy, and look for the way your unique point of view adds beauty into this world. This will help all of us grow, and especially you! As you grow, you’ll be in a better position to connect with him (or another) from a place of maturity and wisdom. Those two elements underpin most successful relationships.

With warmth,
Matt