Thank you for your responses and also for the links.

I guess a little part of me dies with that message and it hit me far harder than I ever anticipated it would. I know it’s not my ex’s problem that I’m struggling, just as I know there was nothing that could save a marrige that had “run its course” (as my therapist has said). On a good day I might even admit that we had simply grown apart to a point where we both needed very different things out of the marriage. In the end, neither of us did anything wrong except grow apart and stop communicating with each other. Unfortunately, that’s very little consolation.

And Peter- I absolutely agree with you about starting another relationship too soon. I would bring far too much emotional baggage into any relationship and it will be a long time before i even consider one.