Laleh, I’m so sorry, I don’t know how I could’ve missed your post! I thought I was the only one feeling this way and thought of myself as so much weaker than everyone but seems like everyone here is going through the same thing as me :/ You are right, so right, about the power having to come from myself and not him. I hate that I care so much about how he thinks of me and that should be one of the things I should improve on: not caring about what others think. And the switch that guys have? I hate that too. Why can us women have that? I also came up with a similar solution, to not give into that urge in the morning as I have already experience enough to know it will only hurt me more than benefit my healing process.

Anne, I teared up reading the questions you posted. I didn’t realize how stupid I am until it’s in writing: “I need him to make me happy and feel like a worthwhile human being”. That is not healthy at all. I should NOT feel that way. I really love these questions and feel that going through them will help me through this process. As of now I’m about to go run some errands so I don’t have time but I will definitely check Laleh’s website and the website you gave me. I’ll let you guys know how it goes after I checked them.

And yea I’m only 20. My mom said the same as you, she went through a lot of heartache with my dad and men she dated after that so her advice was also,”If I can do it, so can you!” 🙂 But thanks again ladies, you don’t understand how much your advices mean to me. I feel very loved.