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Hello, like the ladies before me I too grew up without my dad. I knew him, saw him about two times in my life, he was never interested. The older I got the more it seemed to hurt me. I ended up marrying a man at 19 because I finally found somene who liked me and cared for me. Well we are divorced now and I also raise our daughter by myself…. at least he sees her regulalry. What helped me to get out and over this feeling of being worthless and lonely is simply time and patience with myself. Constant affirming that “I am great, I am loveable, I am worthy of all those great things that everyone wants and needs” Look at yourself in the mirror every morning and say ” I love you” I truely and deeply love you. It feels funny at first and you might get very emotional but that is good. I have done a bit of counseling over the years, read many self help books like ‘A new Earth’ from E. Tolle and also books about not loosing yourself in a relationship. t is hard but life is too short to let these thoughts stop us from living a happy and fullfield live! Learn to love yourself, fill your life with things that make you smile, happy and feel content. Also never see any man you may meet as a potential partner rather as a human and then eventually as a possible friend. The rest will come by itself if it’s meant to be. I just poured my mind out, I hope this is still helpful to you. Wishing you all the best. Work on yourself, give yourself something to be proud of.
Things to do : 1. read 2. learn 3. affirmations 4. yoga 5. meditation 6. counseling 7. writing (poems, diary) 8. Keep Smiling 🙂 Monday to Sunday even if it hurts
Sending you my love Anne
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