hello Rebecca, I did not mean it by just take time out… and calm down. It would have been a bit insulting in my opinion if I did. You are correct. We should not have to remember to breathe. The fear of loosing control over my life, my freedom… the stress of not being heard, on the contrary being shut down became so overwhelming to me, that one morning, I woke up suffocating, panicked… Having to force myself to come back to my most essential core… since, I started to practice yoga and meditation. definite tools that are helping me, i go to therapy as well, i read, learn, make mistakes, fall down, get up and try to do it as quickly as possible.