Khani,

While I have never been married, I was given a crucial piece of wisdom that has stuck with me when I thought I lost my soulmate once too. The truth is, there are soulmates, and there are lifemates, and those are not necessarily the same thing. Soulmates are those that reveal layers of ourselves to us and help us grow and learn. Lifemates are those that we love on a deep level that survives hardships and celebrates happiness. It is okay to have both kind of people in your life. Soulmates are exciting and make us feel tingy and alive. Lifemates give us these feelings but once those feelings are gone, a lasting love and commitment remains as well, enough to get through the bad times. When you do find a soulmate, the feelings for that person never do quite go away and you will always share something with them; it’s okay to feel that way. My advice is to accept the different roles of these two people in your life and to understand that they come with different emotions.