Lara,

Well, perhaps instead of sticking your hand in the fire you could roast some marshmallows. They’re pretty yummy.

I’ve noticed when I’m in a pattern of suppressing my emotions, it becomes a “nothing or blert” kind of situation. Either I clamp down and nothing comes out, or I open up and pour and pour. After I release the pent up emotions, I can just play with them, flirt with them… like tossing a little nugget of love on the end of a stick and putting out there in the fire. If it browns and gets gooey, hurray! If it gets black and charred, its not a big deal because its only one failure, one overcooked marshmallow. 🙂

With warmth,
Matt