Wow this one sounds familiar to a guy i knew once. Well after the first night of being with her he realized he did love her or want her. I mean for him to claim her but not to inquire to her to let her know is kinda…hmm…..sounds like he wants to take charge of her or own. But it gets kinda complicated…..he might want something else that the girl doesn’t want.. To be in love is to communicate that to the partner but here its more like i want this and i can have it. Insecurity could play a role too. That’s my opinion.