Hi Rachel

Thanks Lilbuddha and Matt for your posts. You guys are so amazing :))))))))))))). Matt, is lilbuddha your duplicate ?

Rachel, I have had very similar experiences as yourself and couple of years ago, I hit rock bottom in terms of, “Enough is enough”. This is when I started on a journey of Self-love and self-care. Basically, what lilbuddha said is correct. Judgement stems from an underlying lack of self-love or appreciation. We are hard on ourselves and it flows on to others. The roots of this can often be found in the childhood.

I used the following tools to assist me in the process of self-loving (although I am still a work in progress like most 🙂 ):
– Creating an exceptional life by louise hay and Cheryl Davidson is a good start – it has a lot of positive affirmations and good stuff to start us on the journey of self-love
– Meditation and Yoga
– Gratitude Journal and practicing “letting go of resentment” every day
– Writing down your feelings about what is working in life and what is not. Things which are not working are usually out of our control. Once you accept this, it will be easier to accept yourself
– Smile, Smile and more Smiles
– Doing only things that you are happy to do – first step to accepting yourself. Your mind / heart, thoughts and actions need to be aligned. For example – you offer to sort out other person’s mess but in your heart you are cursing the person – this creates a conflict at an Universal energy level. Like attracts like. So the more you are misaligned in your thoughts and actions, the more you attract of the same.
– Everyone is imperfect including myself – helped a lot in accepting myself
– My daily mantra: I accept myself the way I am, I forgive myself for all the intentional and unintentional pain I have caused myself and I love myself unconditionally.

Best wishes,

J