Hello Melissa,

First I want to congratulate you on making the best decision possible, to leave this man the minute his verbal abuse turned into physical abuse. Second, I want to reassure you that his words and behavior had nothing whatsover to do with you. Abusive people’s behavior is a reflection of who they are, not who you are. I agree with Lori that meditation and getting in touch with your inner child are very helpful. I feel sure that his behavior will continue with other partners and hopefully someone else will report it. It was an awful situation to have gone through, but you are away from it now and it is important to focus on yourself, not what he is doing with his life. I am also sure that realizing that the anger you are feeling is only hurting you, will help you to let it go. Letting go of your anger does not mean condoning anyone else’s cruel behavior, it simply means that you choose to love yourself enough to free yourself from its grip.

Love and peace,
Marilyn